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The subjective experience of narcissistic people is saturated with feelings of shame and the fear of feeling shame. Nancy McWilliams I’ve written before that shame is an organizing feeling in the narcissist’s psyche. It can be so deep that sometimes it is not even felt. A narcissist can say in all seriousness and with complete sincerity, “I have absolutely no shame.” In fact, the deeper th...
Narcissistic shame
Sep 09, 2023
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Depreciation is the other side of idealization and extends both ways: to oneself and to others. Yes, the narcissist is very gifted at devaluation. Just as he is in idealization. And that, by the way, would be an ongoing therapeutic task: to bring him back to reality — to make the picture complete. To show where in devaluation there is value hiding and where in idealizations there may be limi...
Narcissistic devaluation
Jul 09, 2023
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