I write this not just as a woman but as a mom.
A lifetime of dealing with feeling unsafe.
Having to watch my surroundings.
Being groped.
Followed.
Unwanted approaches.
Even sexual assault.
My daughter is at a vulnerable age.
Mid-teens.
She is getting unwanted attention - not just from other male peers but from grown fucking men.
As a mom, I can only do so much.
Watch your surroundings.
Carry your phone.
Pepper spray.
Use your voice.
Walk like you own the road.
Blah blah blah
Year after year.
Decade after f'ing decade.
We women carry this burden.
And guess what, men?
WE ARE DONE.
This is a MALE problem.
Not a FEMALE problem.
A MALE problem.
And it is up to men - the GOOD men - TO DO SOMETHING about it.
Every one of you reading this - every good man reading this - you have seen men engaged in boundary-violating behavior.
And I guarantee most, if not all, of you have not said a thing.
You just let it go.
It ain't your problem.
Not your wife.
Not your girlfriend.
Not your sister.
Not your daughter.
But that female for whom you could have helped - stepped in - approached the little punk, young OR old, and gave him a verbal warning and threat that will make him think TWICE before pulling the same approach - that female is someone's wife.
Someone's girlfriend.
Someone's sister.
Someone's daughter.
It is not all men.
But it IS MEN.
Until this issue is removed from our culture, all women have to live as though it could be all men.
And guys?
It's up to you to unite, step up, and end this for once and for all.
Talk about it.
Say and do something if you see another male, young or old, tell a crude joke. Hassle a female. Or god forbid - even worse.
Patrol the streets if you have to - citizen males patrol - take back our neighborhoods - send the message to potential perverts and perpetrators - that in this neighborhood?
We see something you do?
WE DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.
Silence is no longer an option.
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Victoria
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