Hello, I am Bensu from Twin Flame Awakening.
Before moving on to today's guide topic, I would like to thank you for your interest in my books. You may know me from my articles on Medium.My story of embarking on this journey began with a curiosity about myself. I found myself on a twin flame journey on my development path to understand my intense emotions and distorted perception.
The twin flame journey is challenging for people like me who want to see “tangible” evidence of everything in 3D life. That’s why I started sharing everything I found on my journey with people who I think feel the same way I do. Just like Haruki Murakami’s novel What I Talk About When I Talk About Running, I also say to my own story that ''I would go crazy if I didn’t write it'' because the twin flame journey has a symbolic and high frequency intensive language.
Even if we don’t write what we experience on this journey, we want to tell someone. That’s why we get tarot readings, we go to twin flame experts, in fact, the basis of everything is the “desire to tell”. That’s how I started.
All of my articles were about the experience of whatever I was feeling at that moment, so I'm really grateful to find people who feel the same way I do.
I am in my 4th year of being in hermit mode with myself. Hermit years are the times when a person turns to their inner world, understands themselves rather than socializes, and becomes a little lonely and mature. Here the outside world is less attractive to the person because we understand that everything that happens in our outside world grows and develops inside us. That is why I understand how difficult it is for people on the spiritual awakening journey to be alone with themselves.
If you are experiencing your hermit years, I want you to know that you are not lost, you are just searching for yourself more strongly and there is a great light at the end of the road.
I know that the relationship a person has with themselves is much more complex and difficult than the relationship they have with others, and I see the twin flame dynamic as one of the most important steps in our spiritual journey. The twin flame journey is a key that tells us that in order to be successful in any relationship, we must first become one with ourselves and know ourselves.
We have been taught throughout our lives to give attention and love to others before ourselves. If we give the oxygen of love that we should give to ourselves first to someone else, we will suffocate and we will not be able to breathe. Love is like oxygen.
Its value may not be appreciated in its presence, but its absence is worse than death. That is why I always focus on 4 important steps in order to grow love, the basic food of our spiritual journey, within us and to bring it out more vividly.
1- Mind training
2- Being able to balance masculine and feminine
3- Understanding your emotions
4- Shadow work
1- Mind Training
Training your mind is the most important step in the twin flame journey. The mind always wants to shape your future decisions with the wounds of the past. This is a result of the ego trying to protect us based on our experiences
If we do not understand the way our mind thinks and the defenses our ego maintains on us, we will always stay in the same cycles and will not be able to move into higher versions of ourselves (each transition into our higher version of ourselves creates a new reality for the twin flame union).
The games of our minds are a wide area that affects our own way of thinking. The way we think affects everything at the same time. In any situation where we are uncertain, stressed, afraid or unable to cope, our mind's automatic, learned perspectives emerge and affect our decision-making processes.
The mind tends to fill in the gaps with worst-case scenarios in times of uncertainty. But we think that fear within us is part of our nature, which is wrong. We simply have not trained our mind and now we allow it to interfere with everything we do
When you train your mind, you learn to be flexible and not blindly fixated on one thought or everything you see as true. Our mind often gives us one option that is safe and doesn't allow for many possibilities. This option is our comfort zone..
Everything we find logical and do not go beyond our thoughts is our comfort zone. However, we cannot transcend ourselves and our current life order here. Therefore, we remain distant from the life of our dreams.
Your thinking style also affects how you perceive life. Perceiving life is far beyond thinking based on what we see, hear and have known for a long time. Perceiving is touching our existence and essence beyond the 5 senses. It is feeling ourselves as a valuable part of life as a whole.
However, the mind comes into play here and distorts our perceptions because it is not possible for a mind that is in a constant protection mode and does not think in harmony with itself and healthily to operate a healthy perception.
That's why, on the twin flame journey, we see the negative conditionings that lie deep in our perception the most. And this distances us from the life we perceive with our 5 senses and forces us to see everything more deeply.
Feeling comes into play here. If we have had a perception system that has been managed by the mind for years, when we start to feel, we realize that we are not actually free.
Here, educating the mind means liberating ourselves. Touching different areas of life means freeing ourselves from the dungeons we have imprisoned ourselves in.
2- Establishing the balance between masculine and feminine
There are two polar energy fields within us. We can only feel as a whole when these energy fields work together healthily. Masculine and feminine energy are two fundamentals of the functioning of our existence that give us strength and allow us to do everything easily when combined.
Feminine energy is creativity, the energy that fuels the excitement and passion within us and ignites us in an abstract way to realize our dreams. Every great idea begins with a dream. This creative imagination, nurturing ourselves with love and compassion is the domain of feminine energy. We create a space to think before we act, to convince ourselves of our dreams.
When masculine energy enters the field of dreams created by feminine energy, it is greatly affected. The world of feminine energy is full of colorful ideas that nourish people, rooms full of creativity, love and compassion. The concrete and structure-building power of masculine energy wants to bring the feminine energy within us to life. This is how the two columns within us nourish each other.
If there is an imbalance in our feminine energy, we may experience emotional dissatisfaction, a lack of emotional meaning, a lack of purpose in life, or a lack of depth, which can make us less willing to make things happen. We cannot give our masculine energy the energy to make things happen and materialize them.
An imbalance in our masculine energy can result in an inability to bring our creative and abstract ideas and emotions to life. There is a lack of structure and stability in our lives, which pushes us to perceive everything more abstractly. We cannot be grounded.
3- Understanding our emotions
Our emotions are, in the broadest sense, the energy fluctuations that occur in our minds and bodies. What makes our emotions interesting is that these energetic reactions are felt intensely, but there is no concrete information about how they occur.
The most concrete form of an emotion is to feel this energy as pain or tingling somewhere in our body. (Like stress or fear hitting our stomach, or crying when we are happy or sad.)
Our emotions are much more than just surface energetic reactions. Our emotions are our internal map, our greatest help in understanding ourselves and our external environment. The fact that emotions have been an incomprehensible subject for centuries has created fear in people, and as a result, humanity has become afraid of emotions. But even being afraid of emotions actually contains the feeling of fear.
If it is impossible to escape our emotions, then we must understand an area that makes us feel uneasy. If we do not understand our emotions, our thoughts become even more distorted because we do not know what belongs to what. In the twin flame journey, we often experience emotional fluctuations for no reason and sometimes we cry suddenly. Such developments force us to directly understand our emotions. Asking why I'm crying is, in fact, a way of forcing introspection and self-understanding.
When we ask our ego - why we are crying-, it gives us the answer on the surface. As we move forward in our emotions, we reach our heart and our heart will give us the answer on the deep side. Our emotions are shaped by our way of thinking, but the root cause that actually triggers us is in our subconscious. Our ego constantly lulls us to sleep with the same superficial lies, keeping us from discovering what truly triggers us.
The subconscious mind contains all the truths that we are afraid to face and that our mind distorts to keep us away from our potential. In order to open the doors of your subconscious mind, you must first train your mind and learn the behavioral patterns of your ego, and then understand your emotions.
Understanding emotions is the path to the heart, and being able to move into the heart is the greatest advancement in the twin flame journey.
4 – Shadow work
When you find ways to notice the obstacles of your ego and open the door to your subconscious, you will initially feel very tired and intense. All the realities that hit you here are like a room whose door has never been opened before, dusty and disturbing because it has not been cleaned. But then, as you find your patterns in your subconscious, you move on to an important stage called shadow work.
The ego is what hides our shadows from us because these parts of us are the points we cannot even accept in ourselves. Shadows live inside us and continue to affect our lives until we see them. The place where our unacceptable shadows reside is our unconscious self. Everything that accumulates in the unconscious can shape and grow our shadow, and unless we accept it, our shadow identity can even be the version of ourselves we show to society.
When I say that our shadow can be our real character, I mean this. While we try to hide the shadows within us, the shadow has actually already taken over us and our subconscious starts to direct us from our shadow instead of our essence. This is why we distance ourselves from our bright character in our essence.
Behaviors pushed into the shadow grow larger over time and manifest themselves at some point in our lives. Unless we look into the eyes of our shadow and understand it, they continue to control us in our subconscious.
A big part of the twin flame journey is understanding our emotions and doing shadow work.
The emotions we feel the most on the twin flame journey are jealousy, worthlessness, desire for control, insecurity. Let's look at the ways these emotions manifest in the shadow together.
Anger is a socially unacceptable emotion. Knowing this, we suppress our anger and wear a mask that we are more compatible with, but this behavior will not last long. Everything we suppress deep down will one day surface.
Jealousy that is pushed into the shadows will cause people to lose sight of their own value and potential, and will manifest itself in our lives as worthlessness.
The weakness, fragility or need for control pushed into the shadow can lead to perfectionism or oppression in people's lives. Every situation you try to control returns to you as a greater lack of control.
According to Carl Jung, we find our shadow best in reflections. Our twin flame is our mirror soul and reveals all the shadows we hide within us. We should also be careful of people who disturb or fascinate us excessively.
For example, it can be thought that someone who constantly criticizes others actually has difficulty accepting that characteristic in themselves.
The issues we have examined above are the essence of our spiritual journey and twin flame story.
I will focus on creating a safe and spiritually exploratory space.
Here in our safe space we will examine the blocks that prevent us from experiencing our essence and our true union with both ourselves and our twin flame, and we will recreate our reality. This time we will reveal our true self.
After writing over 250 Twin Flame articles there I decided to move here to create a community that is more enthusiastic and ready to work with the depths and emotional treasures of themselves for the next part of our journey.
In this new chapter of my Journey, I share the insights I discover while awakening my soul within the twin flame journey. Through this online community, I explore how love extends beyond romance.
Love is a powerful feeling and when it enters us, it surrounds us with all our shadows
Thank you for being here
Bensu.