I’m a firm believer that one of the greatest acts of rebellion for a woman is to be liberated in EVERY aspect of her life. Sexually, spiritually, emotionally, physically, financially and mentally. But when most think about women being liberated, they automatically assume it’s just sexual. Sadly, every woman on this god green earth will be considered a hoe by another hating ass hoe or by a man who’s simply a loser or an incel. And we all know why.
The male gaze is taught to our young girls to be their greatest priorities. The male gaze is directly and indirectly made a priority by shaming women and young girls into submission and having their choices dictated by someone else. Our mothers and grandmothers dressed this up as modesty because they wanted to “protect us” but this really wasn’t protection. This was projection. They were projecting their own insecurities on their daughters because their mothers taught them that being a “hoe” was wrong. Thankfully my mother didn’t raise me this way. She always raised me to put myself first and to do what feels good to me.
Womanhood needs to be taught from an angle where mothers are teaching their daughters how to be free in their creativity, how to be in charge of their sensuality and sexuality, and how to set firm boundaries. Your daughters need to understand that the word “NO” is a complete sentence. This word needs to be used at least once a day. Even if they’re telling themselves no.
Remember, a woman’s sexuality is something that needs to be experienced. Because we are generally the receivers, it’s important to share with your girls that you don’t have to be a man’s experiment. It’s okay to be an experience. An experience is nurtured, it’s expensive, it’s restoring, and it’s healing ❤️🩹. When you view yourself as such ladies, you won’t allow low vibrational energy into your world. Allow it to come and go, but don’t allow it to stay. Release it. But to be an experiment, you’ll forever be tampered with and discarded until there’s nothing left. Women and girls are not a man’s playground.
Are you living by their echoes, forgetting the sound of your own truth?
How often do you hear someone in your life telling you how you should look? For instance, my mom got a tattoo on her face and most would say she’s crazy. “Don’t mess up your beautiful face?” But you know what my mom did? Got the tattoo anyway and even more people are intrigued by her look before they even speak a word to her. Her body of art is a conversational piece. People are now even more interested in her which can bring about many different types of opportunities.
You’ll hear men say over and over again how much they love natural women but will cheat on you with an artificial body ( this is not shade ). Or they’ll tell you that they have to be with a woman with a fat ass but the women of their dreams is a skinny queen. The point is, the male gaze serves little purpose in our own true identity as women. Men are more attracted to the confident you. Whether or not you have had plastic surgery is irrelevant. We know that men will sleep with anything, so why not do your own thing?
Ladies, the hoes of the world, you don’t deserve to be caged. This doesn’t mean you have to be so liberated that you are loose or lack self control and discipline. Just don’t allow people’s words to cage you.
Your goal should always be to surround yourself with people who allow you to be vulnerable with them. Your tru authentic self needs to shine. ✨ So let it….
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