Hi lovelies 🤍✨
I've compiled a list of some of great books I think everyone should read and take lessons from. Let me know if it helps ♥️
1. “Attached” by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller
If you’re trying to figure out why your relationships feel like a rollercoaster, this book breaks down the different attachment styles (anxious, avoidant, secure) and how they play out in real life. It’s easy to understand and will probably make you go, “Aha, that’s me!”
2. “Hold Me Tight” by Dr. Sue Johnson
This one’s great for understanding how emotions drive relationships. It’s packed with helpful tools for connecting more securely with your partner and creating lasting emotional bonds.
3. “The Power of Attachment” by Diane Poole Heller
Diane goes deep into how attachment wounds affect us, with tons of insight into healing. It’s a bit more intense but well worth the read if you’re ready to dig deeper into your emotional patterns.
4. “The Anxious Heart” by Elizabeth K. D. Johnson
If you’ve ever felt like your anxiety takes over in relationships, this book will help you make sense of it all. It’s practical and filled with ways to soothe your anxious attachment and set healthier boundaries.
5. “Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving” by Pete Walker
This one isn’t specifically about attachment but is fantastic if you feel like your past has deeply impacted your ability to connect securely with others. Pete walks you through the effects of trauma and offers steps to help you heal and grow.
6. “Attached to God” by Krispin Mayfield
For those of you who are also exploring spiritual attachment (or maybe just curious), this book is eye-opening. It connects attachment theory with faith, helping you understand your connection to others on a deeper, more spiritual level.
7. “Radical Acceptance” by Tara Brach
Sometimes, the hardest person to love is yourself, right? This book is perfect for learning to be kinder to yourself, which is key when you’re working on healing from attachment wounds.
8. “The Body Keeps the Score” by Bessel van der Kolk
This one’s a game-changer. If you’ve ever felt like your body reacts in ways you don’t understand—especially in stressful moments or conflict—this book explains how trauma lives in the body and how to work through it.
9. “Healing Your Attachment Wounds” by Diane Poole Heller
A guide focused specifically on healing attachment issues. Diane makes it feel doable to start shifting your attachment patterns, and it’s packed with exercises you can try.
10. “The Secure Child” by Stanley I. Greenspan
While this book is about how to raise securely attached kids, it gives powerful insights into how attachment develops and how you can “re-parent” yourself as an adult. Great if you’re wondering how your childhood shaped your relationships today.
11. “Emotion Regulation in Couples Therapy” by Marcia L. McNally
This book is super helpful if you’ve been stuck in patterns of emotional chaos in relationships. It offers practical tools to regulate your emotions and handle conflict more maturely, which is key to moving toward secure attachment.
12. “How to Be an Adult in Relationships” by David Richo
This one’s all about maturing in relationships. It’s straightforward and teaches you how to navigate intimacy, conflict, and everything in between in a healthy, secure way. If you’re struggling to stay grounded in a relationship, this could be a lifesaver.
These books should feel more like a roadmap to your healing journey. Some might make you uncomfortable at times, but that’s part of the process.
You've got this ♥️