Being an Adult: My father Part 3

بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمٰنِ الرَّحِيْم

It is through my mama that everything matters. She’s the only one that truly counts. My dad did steal her—she’s very beautiful, and my dad is definitely brave. He’s always stealing hearts, especially those of women. But he made a mistake—he married a lioness, and he was already a lion. I don’t know what it is about this world, but it seems to bring lions together.

They keep lion cubs too, which we want from all the people. I’m one of the cubs. Trust me, I’m not the only one. No, my family is a big family, but I can only talk about my own experience. It’s up to them to share their experiences. Hopefully, their blogs will be coming soon, giving you a breakdown of themselves, and you’ll get an incredible look at their stories. As they begin to come online, that will encourage them.

Seriously, this is my perspective on how things went down.

We start with the lion. If you’re brave enough to steal the most beautiful lady, get chased by the whole town, and then put your guard down and say, “Your man is just constipated; she’s already mine,” you better be ready. When the wedding is done, and you’re not taking her, someone might say, “Over my dead body.” You need a price? You can try talking to her as well, but if she doesn’t want to go, I’m not letting her go. Somebody’s going to die.

You know you’re messing with a lion. Killing people? Chasing them off? She doesn’t want you—that’s okay. Ten million dollars for her wedding wasn’t a big deal. We’ll make another ten million. By that time, it’s like a hundred million, anyway.

So, what’s important to discuss is the right of women. It’s not about the money.

My parents, the lion and lioness, set the standard. If nobody’s going to give you what you want, you better steal some hearts. I’m working on it. I’m doing some stealing with a comment here, you know, being a lion, lighting myself on fire so the world can see me. I’m going into battles—so many battles, we don’t even know where to start.

Let’s start with the lion himself. My father’s battles are too many.

Here’s just a description of some of it, so you know who you’re dealing with.

I remember as a kid, he came home with a bandage, looking very tough. His hand was cut, but other people were wounded. He just had a cut—that’s it—but they were outnumbered. That tells you who he was.

We heard the story: he was delivering cash. I don’t deliver cash, but my dad brought his big knife while delivering the cash. Unfortunately, some people were notified and surrounded the car—too many people. He went after the person coming to hurt him. He turned around, got stabbed, and kept going. Ten guys or something—they knew they were outmatched. This dude was crazy. The money wasn’t worth it anyway. Another guy got injured, and another was gushing blood. They were surrounded, but we should have just given up the cash. I don’t know what happened. It’s not a big deal. It’s just cool. He never brags about any fight.

Fight Number 2: Some guy, from a very rich family, was always talking crap, attacking verbally, even using some kind of magic. An unbelievable, pathetic man. Anyway, he was told about my dad, who never misses a prayer. My dad went, came back, and had a stick. “If you’re a man, face it,” he said. I don’t know what made him a man, but he definitely showed up. Let’s just say it didn’t end well for the other guy. My dad has taught me: don’t hit people on the head. Slap those two legs, take their knife, humiliate them, and that’s it. Anyway, he was on his ass.

My dad usually wears Somali-style clothing, but if he says, “Get me my shorts,” you know something is about to go down.

This particular incident was amazing because the people involved were rich. When you involve the police, you risk corruption. Judges might get bribed. A very smart police officer came and spoke to my mom, the lioness, asking for advice. He said, “Your husband and this person fought. You know the corruption that might follow. What’s your advice?”

My mom, as always, gave a calm and calculated answer: “Lock them both up. No corruption, no bribes.” She explained, “Facilitating leadership is about integrity.” The officer took her advice, and both men were detained, which prevented further corruption.

Another story involved thieves breaking into our house. My dad wasn’t dressed properly, and my mom stopped him from fighting them in the nude. The thieves, surprisingly ethical, said, “We broke into the wrong house. We’ll leave some money behind and go.”

The thieves even moved into the living room for a conversation. Robbers with ethics—imagine that.

The world used to have honor, even among thieves. Warriors fought for what they needed but maintained integrity. This tradition of honor has faded, but the stories of my family remind me of those values.

At the end of the day, my father’s bravery and my mother’s wisdom taught me what it means to live with honor. My dad, despite his toughness, also had a soft side. I remember him carrying me to the hospital for miles, just because I pretended to have a headache.

A father’s role is important, but if you didn’t have a father like mine, stop whining. Your spiritual father is even more important.

The owner of the universe made the Blessed Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) an orphan so the Creator Himself could raise him. For those who are orphans, know that the master of the green dome, the Prophet, is your spiritual father.

On Judgment Day, all lineages will be cut off except for the Prophet’s. Focus on your spiritual connection. Respect and love your father, but understand the ultimate fatherhood is spiritual.

Being an Adult: Part 3: The Spiritual Father

In life, having a father is important, but having a spiritual father—now that is something entirely transformative. The spiritual father surpasses the role of the physical father because the former connects you to your soul, the very essence of who you are. It is through the spiritual father that you learn to love, grow, and develop into your highest potential.

The Blessed Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him), the master of the green dome, is not just a prophet or a messenger. He is the spiritual father to those who are illuminated by the light of faith. Allah says in the Quran:

“The Prophet is more worthy of the believers than themselves, and his wives are [in the position of] their mothers” (Surah Al-Ahzab, 33:6).

This verse highlights the unique and unparalleled position of the Prophet in the lives of the believers. He is not just a teacher, not just a guide—he is a spiritual father. His role is to take the hearts of the believers and illuminate them with the light of faith, transforming their inner world.

The Light of Faith: A Unique Relationship

When your heart is illuminated by this light, everything changes. The Prophet (peace be upon him) was sent to beautify and purify the hearts of humanity. Allah says:

“Indeed, Allah conferred a great favor upon the believers when He sent among them a Messenger from themselves, reciting to them His verses and purifying them and teaching them the Book and wisdom, although they had been before in manifest error.” (Surah Aal-E-Imran, 3:164).

The Prophet’s purification isn’t just about outward rituals. It’s about planting the seed of faith deep in the heart so that it grows into something profound. This faith is not just on the tongue—it is lived, felt, and experienced. It becomes reality.

Those whose hearts are illuminated by the light of faith love the Prophet deeply—not out of mere respect, but out of a need to be guided and to be connected to something far greater than themselves. This love is transformative, as it moves you closer to internalizing your faith. It’s not superficial. It’s not ritualistic. It’s real.

The Prophet as a Companion: A Masterful Approach

The Prophet (peace be upon him) described himself as a companion to his followers. But here’s the subtle brilliance in that. By calling himself a companion rather than a master or a teacher, he created a relationship of closeness and humility. He did not elevate himself in a way that would make people worship him, as some did with Jesus (peace be upon him).

Allah commanded him to remain humble, saying:

“And lower your wing to the believers who follow you.” (Surah Ash-Shu’ara, 26:215).

This humility wasn’t just for the people—it was a strategy of spiritual wisdom. By being humble, he allowed himself to be both loved and respected without crossing the line into excessive admiration. It protected the believers from idolizing him, ensuring that they always recognized that he was a servant of Allah and not divine.

This approach is why even Muslims sometimes fail to recognize his true position. They think, “He was just a man.” But that’s the trick. The Prophet, in his brilliance, saved himself from the pitfalls of being too admired or worshipped. Yet, in reality, he is the one who must be loved and followed for hearts to be illuminated and faith to become a reality.

Before we turn the chopped on the spiritual father I show you a picture of my dad

Illumination Through Spiritual Fathers

The Prophet isn’t the only one who illuminates hearts. Those who purify and beautify themselves—those who carry his light—also become spiritual fathers. They pass on the light of faith, helping others internalize it. Allah praises those who do this, saying:

“Indeed, they who have believed and done righteous deeds—those are the best of creatures.” (Surah Al-Bayyinah, 98:7).

Their hearts shine with light because they have been illuminated by the light of the Prophet, and they pass this light on to others. This is why it is so important to connect with those who have purified themselves, for they can guide you on the journey of faith.

When you experience this kind of guidance, it can feel intense. You might even feel as though you’re going crazy because the desire to reach the other side—the side where faith is not just knowledge but reality—becomes overwhelming. But this intensity is necessary. It pushes you to move beyond superficial faith into a deeply lived experience.

What Does This Mean for You?

It means that your relationship with your spiritual father is not just one of learning. It is one of transformation. You are no longer simply someone who believes—you are someone who lives and breathes faith.

The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said:

“None of you will have faith until I am more beloved to him than his father, his children, and all of mankind.” (Bukhari, Muslim).

This love isn’t blind devotion. It is a recognition that the Prophet is the source of spiritual guidance and the means by which your heart is illuminated.

The End Goal: Internalizing Faith

To love the Prophet is to love the light he brings, the guidance he offers, and the transformation he inspires. If your heart is illuminated, it becomes a beacon of faith—a faith that is lived, not just spoken. And this light connects you to a lineage of spiritual fathers who trace their illumination back to the Prophet himself.

So, while having a brave, strong, and honorable father in this world is important, it pales in comparison to having a spiritual father. Your spiritual father connects you to the Creator, to the divine purpose of your existence, and to the light that will guide you in this life and the next.

Those who don't have fathers daddy issues don't worry this is not about having a daddy it's about having a spiritual father so we turn the page to that we don't want you to be stuck in my life but I will give you a picture of my dad.

: The Spiritual Father