For most of my life, I lived in my head. Overthinking, planning, trying to control everything around me. My body? It was just something I carried around—tense, alert, always on edge.
Even after doing deep emotional work and trauma healing, I realized something painful:
I still didn’t feel safe in my body.
I couldn’t fully relax. I held my breath. My shoulders stayed up. Pleasure felt foreign, rest felt guilty.
That’s when I understood—healing isn’t just about insights or emotional awareness.
It’s about rebuilding the felt sense of safety inside your own skin.
When I started doing small grounding rituals—touching my arms gently, placing a pillow on my belly while breathing, or simply whispering “you’re safe” to myself—something shifted. Not overnight. But my nervous system started to trust me again.
This inspired my new mini-guide:
3 Rituals for Feeling Safe in Your Body
https://buymeacoffee.com/lvsturite/e/389837
I created it for anyone who knows what it feels like to be stuck in survival mode, even long after the danger is gone.
You don’t need to do more. You just need to come home to your body.
With care,
Lolita Viktorija Sturite