Hey chica,
If you're reading this, I already know you're smart and you likely know a lot about many things. Perhaps, you have deep intuition or, just plain ole common sense.
Well, as life has probably taught you...common sense ain't always common, and there are a lot of moving mouths who know little of what they speak.
I'm not going to lie, this still irks me. As an introvert, who normally only speaks when I feel like I have something of value to add, and not someone who speaks just to hear myself, people who say nonsense irks every nerve. Like, just shut up! Phew. I get riled up thinking about it.
Listen, for a long time I spent my time correcting (and in some cases arguing with) people who made outright ridiculous statements. I mean people talking about things they don't know with their whole chest and being completely wrong. I'd do this online and in real life. It was exhausting.
Honey, let me tell you. My reclaiming my time, rest as liberation, pursuit of pleasure like it is my purpose, and creating for joy praxis and practice has led me to come to a full stop with arguing with folks. I just don't do it anymore. Even at work, I've learned to say my part and speak it clearly (and even follow up with an email if I think I need to document it). Folks will listen and/or want to learn more or they won't. What I know is that some things are just not worth my peace.
"Learn to pick your peace"
-Nedra Glover Tawwab, Therapist and Author
I was watching an Instagram reel by Nedra Tawwab and she said it is OK to let people believe they are correct when in fact they are not. She further goes on to say, "learn to pick your peace, because in every situation it is not important to be right".
Of course, there are some situations where it is worth the effort to correct someone. But most of the time, it is more about ego than anything else.
Let people be wrong. It is OK.
Part of a life of ease is not worrying about other folks non-fatal ignorance. If someone wants to believe that Tupac is alive...let them. I say "non-fatal" because sometimes people are going to believe what they want and no facts or evidence will change their minds. If what they think is true is not hurting others (or themselves) in fatal or other harmful ways, then eh.
Now, I just watch and listen to people. If someone says something that resonates with me I may engage in a conversation. If someone says something I think is just ridiculous, I won't engage. It really is that simple.
Sometimes, ending a conversation that is not bearing fruit with just a simple, "OK". Is the biggest gift you can give to yourself.
p.s. sometimes, your peace will require letting people be wrong about you! but that is a different topic, for a different day.
Reclaim your time! #maxinetaughtme
xoxo