At my mother-in-law’s funeral, there were certain people who attended that I had cut ties with a long time ago. I couldn’t control the crowd who came but I definitely set boundaries to how close they got to me. I have forgiven them which makes me being in the same room with them bearable. I am not afraid of their presence and when they arrive, it doesn’t set me off, making me feel out of energy. I keep a distance and although I may nod and smile, it simply means that I have let go the pain and I am no longer afraid of them.
Remember that…when we have yet to forgive someone for the harm they have done, we will run for the exit sign if they should appear in the same room we are in. By being in the same room and being able to stand tall means that our scars have healed and once was enough. Letting it happen again will not be a repeated history in our book.
The strength we have can come as a big surprise when we think we have nothing left. It is then, hitting rock bottom, that will have us realizing how strong we can become. When we feel we have no one and we are left with the thought of, “What am I going to do now?” The choices we have are always open and we do not have to endure something others hand us. Be faithful to your heart and validate your pain that was put into your heart. Make sure to fully forgive yourself first for carrying on things that you shouldn’t have to and then let go the power other people have over you. Only when they no longer have the hold over you, can you truly move on to brighter days.