Hi Dragons,
What's familiar the mind perceives as safe, even if it means lying to ourselves creating false inhibiting beliefs.
When you're not around soul tribe, it definitely has challenges...you're the misfit, the outcast, the weird one...life is always more of a struggle for us...well that's because we're not in harmony with ourselves and/or our epigenetics, and our survival depends on community...
So what do we do...we conform...we do things, like hangout with folks who are f@cking rude to us and/or completely indifferent about our presence, meanwhile, we went to great lengths to show up...we even attended social functions showing up at these folks' house buying them gifts for their new baby, etc....When we're around them... they're exclusive, we're their workhorse, they use us for our skills, etc...so why are we around them....why are they hanging out with us....well you see...it's familiar and therefore perceived by the mind as safe...safe for you and safe ironically for them...
Yes... dysfunctional relationships are extraordinarily familiar to the mind, so the mind will work very hard to keep you stuck in the illusion, but don't hate your mind...it's protecting you...
Yes...conforming is a part of survival and a stressful one at that...that's why it's soooooooo super upsetting to be the confused warrior because we spend most of our lives wondering wtf...
Once we become consciously aware of the changes we need to make, we tend to stay stuck suffering even more, as ignorance really is a bliss.
What the hell is our problem?! We'll, the problem is, if you stay in a pattern the pattern continues.
Change the pattern and you change the program...
Change your thinking and change your life.
That's my speciality, mind reprograming...sometimes that's what it takes, so if you've been there and done that and still stuck not getting results...hey, I get it...most folks who require mind reprograming try to do it all on their own, which is admirable, yet there are times in our life where the shaman needs a shaman. If you feel the pull, book RTT®️ with me pronto.
I wanted to be brutally honest with you, dragons....I'm a real person too...bahahaha I know that might sound like an odd statement to make...
Mental health and wellness is everything.
Step one is becoming conscious. Step one can hands down suck and be a super shitty experience because the brutal truths exposed, truths we can no longer ignore or deny...truths that are a full disclosure...That's owl energy...once something is fully disclosed, you can't go back to the way things used to be...
Step two is making changes...which can also be a hands down super shitty experience, as these changes can be very terrifying....very scary...and full of uncertainty....It's never a good time for crisis...typically these changes come at times when we're short on money, energy, friends, resources...it's during these times we learn we never really had any money, energy, friends, or resources because all we had were a bunch or masks and illusions...the worst part.. the masks don't even fit anymore...and many of us pushed to conform to systematic approaches.
I get it dragons. The struggle is real.
The goodnews is...
These changes are the walls of your matrix crumbling...its supposed too, as we live in a state of impermanence...sometimes it crumbles faster or slower than we want...same as our snake skin metephor...
Point is...change can bring sadness and an abundance of confusion.
It's okay to feel these feelings. It's okay to have compassion for yourself and to truly own how you feel. Admit the things that hurt your heart. Geez, they can hurt...
Over the years, I've made changes. I think back to some of the folks I used to hangout with and their crap...I remember feeling like I needed to be better to fit in with them...I also felt excluded etc...
Now all this time and healing has occurred and it's like...wow...as challenging as it was, I'm glad those are folks I "used" to know...they're not bad people by any means...they weren't my soul tribe...hence the cold shoulder...
Once you have soul tribe, those kind of relationships and insecurities fade away.
Hangout with those who want you around. Be mindful too, how you engage.... seemingly, it's kind to invite someone new to hangout with you and your friends...but don't do it because you feel sorry for them or something, because it confuses that person that you're trying to be friends...it's trying to be trying...
Peers relationships and business relationship are most of our relationships...they also often get confused as friendship, even family.
Relationships are interesting.
You're interesting!
A song I learned as a child comes to mind: "Make new friends, but keep the old. Some are silver and the others gold"....
I learned if a friend is nor silver or gold, they never were a friend...and that's okay...peers are not friends...friendship needs to be earned and is often taken for granted in early childhood.
This message wasn't intended to be so lengthy, yet I feel like a lot of dragons needed to hear this today.
If you're feeling sad, lost, alone...that's a good sign your subconscious mind is experiencing melancholy with the old program, trying to resist the new one...the new one that includes making new peers...finding a new community that vibes with you...and if you're still reading this, clearly the Dragon Dreams Soul Tribe Collective is your community. If you haven't joined already, we'd love to have you!
Keep dreaming those dreams. One step at a time.
Thank you for being part of the Dragon Dreams Soul Tribe Collective. It's one of few spaces I can breath easy being my authentic dragon self. How about you?
You belong.
You're gold.
Gina
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