Women tend to hide and store the pain and get chronic ills and diseases, men tend to push down the pain and lash out in violence towards themselves and others.
We're all taught to ignore the pain and suffering, both our own and that of others, to be grateful for whatever we do have, and to keep playing by the rules, and do what we need to stay numb. We can't selectively numb though. We numb the good with the bad.
We act and make rules based in fear and distrust for what humans actually are instead of love, trust and compassion.
Whomever can imitate privilege the most gets more of it. Whomever can ignore the suffering privileges usually cause others, or that we receive as a consequence of the suffering of others, tend to get more of it.
Many people believe it's fair to not try to make the world fair because "life isn't fair". Many believe being skilled at hoarding money means you deserve all the money as if it's the most moral and valuable thing a human could do.
Under capitalism we are ALL dehumanized as it puts a monetary value on all that is INvaluable, our selves included. We are worth only as much as we can earn, according to what the current systems has decided it is worth paying for.
We're not individuals. We're all connected. You can not dehumanize others without also dehumanizing aspects of yourself.
No one is free until everyone is free.
In the meantime, it's OK, and necessary to let out some of the pain, when, and if you can afford to. Being able to safely process some pain is also a privilege.
I did today. I cried, loudly too. When I let go it was more like howling. And coughing. Cause I'm still sick. Anyway, I hope it didn't scare the neighbours.
My chest hurts a little less now.
Happy #womensday2023