When we think of what we need to have to be happy and successful, desire may not be on the list as a must have. In fact, it is a subject we are often told is not only unnecessary but wrong in some way. I am not sure where this thought process came from, but I have to tell you it needs to change.
We all have desires, deep passionate wants that we can't completely forget about. These desires help connect u to our purpose and our true selves. One example is the desire for wealth. How many of us have been told the desire or pursuit of wealth is wrong? Why is it wrong to want wealth? Before anyone says it's selfish to want to be rich and have money, may I ask why you think that way? I find that when I have extra money, I am more likely to give to others because I have it to give! Another one is I will hear someone talking about wanting or desiring to be famous, but in the same breath say how vain and self-centered that is. Again, I have to ask why? Having an audiance and speaking, or performing has the chance to inspire someone else, that isn't wrong at all.
When we allow ourselves to explore our desires and why we want them, we find our purpose. I love to write and perform. I do have a desire to be a bestselling author. I also have a passion for spirituality and a desire to share that. Sharing that with others allows me to help them through readings and sharing my experiences.
And I am going to go ahead and say it, we all have a need to feel desirable! We all have a need to feel wanted. Yet we are taught that being sensual, or expressing that need in any form is wrong, shameful. Yet, knowing you are desirable, and knowing you are a prize to be won, connects us to our worth, and when we are connected to our worth, we have more confidence, and that leads us to be more likely to follow through on goals and be more confident. See how everything is connected? When we take desire out of the mix, it can make it more difficult to stay connected to ourselves and purpose. This leads to anxiety, and depression from being disconnected from ourselves and source. It's like breaking a piece of spiderweb, the rest of the web starts to fall apart when you knock down one strand.
If you are feeling a little stuck, and maybe a little disconnected, ask yourself what your desires are, and when was the last time you felt desirable. Do something that makes you feel desirable and watch how your energy shifts.