When you're dismissed and told you need ...

When you're dismissed and told you need to learn xyz lesson

Nov 03, 2024

Well one thing I see - the more I put myself out there and share my situation and ask for what I need - when those who can't or won't offer what you need - they will often dump a bunch of unasked for advice on you and make all sorts of assumptions without first asking. And sometimes the words simply sting.

Today alone I've been told "at least it isn't sexual or physical so you can still get some tools" (!!!) and "you're still there to learn how to deal with humans like that in the future" (who are you? God?) and "there's still a lesson for you to learn here." (again, who are you, God?)

Want to say that crap to my child?

Who says words like that?

Why is it good people have to learn the lessons while those who are toxic and abusive don't?

Why do we ENABLE the abusers and judge the victims? Even blame them? Because when you blame the victim, judge them, ignore them when they say what they need, you are enabling the abuser/abuse.

And as is so present for me today: Why is it a dead squirrel gets so much attention but a woman being abused gets ignored or told what to do while being ignored when she says: "THIS IS WHAT I NEED". (fyi - I present that because the man behind the squirrel is not who we all think he is - I did my research as did a few friends).

A world of deafness.

And people wonder what's wrong with the world.

Maybe it's a good idea we all look in the mirror and ask ourselves that.

What are our priorities?

What are we doing to make a difference in the world?

When we see someone in need, do we ask what they need, or do we TELL them what we think they need?

I see a lot of local talk about the homeless problem, and not once have I seen someone say, "let's ask them what they need." Well other than me - I have suggested that.

Makes me want to not only leave this house, but go as remote as possible from society at large, because the more I am ME out there in it, the less of "it" I want to be involved in.

We all need to be heard.

To be heard is Divine. It makes you feel Safe.

It's what can make the difference between someone drowning and someone thriving.

I think we can all agree a world of thriving people is a much better option.

That is all for now.

M.E.

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