A life without pain is death. pain in our life is as inevitable as happiness. Our life is nothing but an endless cycle of pain and happiness. Every person in this world is going through something that they wish to be over. Every person in this world is going through something that
they blame their past self for. Every person in this world feels the echoes of regret in his/her mind.
In the wise words of Albert Camus
"Men are never convinced of your reasons, of your sincerity, of the seriousness of your sufferings, except by your death. So long as you are alive, your case is doubtful; you have a right only to their scepticism."
So never in your life play a victim because thats a sign of weakness. Never try to blame your pain on others thats a sign of cowardice. Be a person of strong morals, values and ethics and take responsibility for your pain and suffering and thats how you will earn respect.
if the pain doesn't lead to humility, you have wasted your suffering. As Rumi once said "the answer to the pain is in the pain" and as Gautama Buddha once said "Pain is inevitable but suffering is optional"
When we understand that it's impossible to avoid pain then and only then we can avoid suffering. All we have to do in the situation of pain is to be patient. As Winston Churchill once said "if you are walking through hell, keep walking"
and never lose faith as Ravindranath Tagore once said "Faith is the bird that feels the light and sings when the dawn is still dark"