So, I often have issues with very simple statements. As someone with ADHD sometimes I overthink things.
My husband asked me a question yesterday - it was a simple request, "Is there any rice left?"
I was in the kitchen and had just made some rice for myself.
The thing that happens is that my brain takes a moment to process that question..... which means that there is a little break of silence.
It could be just a few seconds..or up to 15 seconds as my brain starts to go through it's motions.
What did he really ask?
Is there any hot rice left?
Is there uncooked rice left?
Is there are rice left from what I was eating?
Should I have made more rice?
So I start my answer with ..well I just ate the rice that I had but I can make you more rice ( trying to please). There is no more hot rice but there is still rice in the fridge I can heat that up for you although it is yesterdays rice.
Husband: "Why can't you just say YES or NO?"
Me: "Because I am not sure which question you are asking me!"
Husband: "I just asked if there was any rice left?"
Me: "That's not enough for a proper answer" and I go on to repeat the first bit. Was it cooked or uncooked, hot or cold etc.
By this stage he is quite over the whole thing and usually considering why he asked me in the first place.
This dear friends has led my relationship to teeter on the edge of existence, many a time.
Renata
