It's just a bump and grind... the words from my latest routine with my new Burlesque classes I run but also isn't it just an incredibly accurate way to describe our life path sometimes?
A bump and a grind, the daily grind , the daily tasks the daily personal growth journey that we have a choice to progress or stagnate on;, the bump off the cliff when you can't take any more or the bump up the ladder from a helping hand.
It is just a journey, that is all. It is all just a game of life, just a game yet we take it so seriously. How did we shift out of flow so much, and so in to the control? Well new circles I have been dipping my toe in to point to colonisation and the patriarchy, the destruction of the nurturer the care giver, the connector and the onslaught of destroy, destruct and corrupt. Rule and rules instead of flow and intuition. The introduction as force used as destructive power, force as in to control not as in force as to withstand an sustain. We have changed as humans in to a fearful race that follows the rules set out by those that benefit from them. We believed the dogma of religions and then of society that this is a serious business. What if that is what makes us feel like life is hard? What if we all struggle as we follow the rules and abandon our true nature, abandon our truth?
I think about this in all areas; More recently my personal struggle as feeling like a failure as an adult, even as a mother as I may seem to be a failure in my ability to be financially secure. Why do I feel like a failure there? Because the fear and control machine has your 'get mothers back to work quick schemes' , because your financial gain is used as a mark of success and status rather than your personal and spiritual gifts of contribution. In reality, society and the way its run is a giant story of manipulation, we are conditioned to feel and believe and treat and receive by the messaging all around us.
What about my body, what about our body. Who say's it matters what it looks like, who says what is too and too thin? Who makes these guidelines, these impressions, who creates fake and false appearances everywhere to make you look at yourself from a negative perception? Try as you might you never feel you fit in, you never feel good enough.. why?
Because all the messaging we have doesn't ask us what we think and feel without judgment, it tells us what to think and feel.
Where do my insecurities come from? I am not good enough to do this, I am too old to do this? Who say's these things where do my beliefs come from??
It all comes from our conditioning to make us think life is a life of reward and punishment the fair and the unfair, the good and the bad, the you vs me or us vs them making it all seem like a very serious game with consequences that are harsh or worrying.
What if we just stayed in flow, in love, in joy, in peace? Would life feel so serious and important then?
My lesson this week is just put down the bag of serious implications and consequences. Remember who you are, a fucking bad ass who is essentially a big load of magical startdust wearing a human body to come here to connect, to create and have fun. There is no point in taking life too seriously, take the rough with the smooth, the bump with the grind, do what lights you up, do what brings you joy, do what brings you peace in the little moments of every day which make up life as lets be real, no matter what you do or how hard you stress or work or love or hate, we all have one thing in common, we're all gonna die.
So today, let us decided to live while we are alive, to not let our spirit die a little more each day we live but to infuse every second with the high vibrations of peace, love , joy, love , laughter and gratitude.
It's just a game, it is just a ride, nothing matters enough to keep you from your truth, just live it unapologetically with no fucks given and remember you are the player of your life, you know how to be you, shed the layers of conformity and conditioning, know your self, know your spirit and be beautifully you.
I don't know much about me without conditions and control, who does? It is an intoxicating manipulation. I am starting with the feelings, what brings me peace, love, joy and laughter? Nature, books, writing, Dancing, people. These are my things I love the most, that bring me home to myself, that raise my vibration enough to bump along with the grind.
What lights you up and do you live it?
Your here to have fun, your here to create, your here to connect, your here to love, your here to laugh, to experience the beauty of creation and collaboration.
Love Bex
p.s... well I was going to talk about how empowering I find my dance classes despite the struggles with confidence, but the above came out of me instead. If it helped you or anyone I am glad. Let's lift eachother up to taking our power back and remembering who and what we truly are. Peace and love vibes always
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