You weren’t born thinking your worth depended on how desirable you are to men. You were trained to think that. Conditioned. Programmed. Praised for playing small. Punished for showing power and strength. And when the world teaches women that silence is safety and being “low maintenance” is loveable, we start turning the knife on ourselves.
What Is Internalized Misogyny?
It’s the voice in your head that whispers:
“Don’t be too loud. Don’t be too emotional. Don’t scare him away.”
“Other women are drama — I’m different.”
“At least he’s not cheating.”
“Maybe I am asking for too much…”
It’s not always loud or obvious. It’s subtle, sneaky, and socially rewarded.
It looks like:
Competing with women instead of connecting with them.
Apologizing for your standards.
Downplaying your needs so you don’t seem “needy.”
Confusing bare-minimum behavior for romance.
Believing you have to “earn” a man’s love by being cool, hot, easygoing, and undemanding.
It’s the reason you stayed too long.
It’s the reason you felt lucky to be tolerated.
It’s the reason you clapped for breadcrumbs and called it a meal.
Why This Guide Exists:
This isn’t a soft, coddling workbook full of affirmations. This is a wrecking ball. This is shadow work with bite. This is a survival guide for every woman who is tired of betraying herself just to be chosen.
We’re going to unlearn the lies, rewrite your standards, and remind you that you were never “too much” — you were just in rooms that couldn’t hold you.
By the end of this guide, you’ll be more comfortable with:
Calling out low-effort men with zero hesitation
Setting standards that feel like self-respect
Watching the version of you who tolerated crumbs go up in flames
Let’s burn the scripts they handed us — and write our own.
