CHOOSE A PILE THAT CATCHES YOUR ATTENTION
If you have chosen #1
This person got abandonment issues that is why he/she may do things in a very unbalanced, manipulative and unfair way. This person plans ahead and is a keen observer so before they approach you, expect this person to know almost everything ( if not all ) about you. This may be another Christian Grey in the making. This person may be into BDSM, humiliation and is very keen on putting you in an arm's length and call it a relationship. You must insist on a give and take type of relationship and not allow passion and intensity cloud your judgement. That way, this person will respect you and reconsider how he/she sees you. This person may be tanned or is into tanned sex partners. They may fantasize about you begging them to stay or locking him/her in a room so you they won't be able to leave. There is something about their partner's clinginess and possessiveness that turns them on. I will not be surprised if this person fantasizes about you chaining them or handcuffing them while you have sex with them. This can also be reversed. Maybe they are into rape fantasies or they may fantasize about handcuffing you while pleasing you so much you won't think of going home or anywhere anymore.
This person's abandonment issue may be too deep they need a deep and intense meditation. This is a dangerous relationship to pursue because they will fin it hard to trust anyone. There is something about control that turn them on - may it be from their partner or when their partner allow them to have control in the sexual act.
If you chose Pile #2
This person's life had been dissatisfying to them. It seems like a lot of their plans did not materialize and now they are understanding why. This person is wanting to start again after an old idea came to them and the opportunity to pursue it has come. Their fantasies includes whatever they did not pursue with you in the past and probably having you pregnant and knowing everything they have to know about you. You must be clear about your intentions, expectations and assumptions about your situation with each other before proceeding with a connection with this person. If you are ok with being pregnant, say so. If you are expecting a committed relationship, make it clear to this person. If you are expecting a one time thing, express it. This person also fantasizes about talking to you or maybe you telling them what to do, what you like, what pleases you and what doesn't.
They also fantasize about being there when you least expect it and them helping you out or just basically being your hero who saved your day. This person may find it exciting to have quickie sex every now and then in the most " prone- to - discovery " places and time. This will be a dangerous co worker for they do not care where and when they want to do it, they just have to do it. If this person is someone with authority or is your boss, know that they have a lot of office sex fantasies.
If you chose Pile #3
This person is emotionally manipulative, prone to fake orgasms and very skilled. I won't be surprised if this person had done porn or is working in the porn industry. A lot of people who had been with them is most likely pleased and tend to talk about his/her "talents" to whoever is willing to listen. They fantasize about making you drunk or high or finding you when you are not capable of better judgement and having you beg for their sexual attentions. It's a turn on for them if they end up in a situation where they "have no choice" but to have sex. They are also sexually generous and they fantasize about teaching you how to please yourself as they watch you. If you are inexperienced , this will make it exciting for them. This person is not a commitment type though so do not expect this person to stick around after a night of pleasure.