There is no one-size-fits-all solution to finding love in the 21st century. With so many options, it can be difficult to know what will work for you. The key is to find what works best with your personality and lifestyle. You just have to look around and see where you fit in.
The idea of love and dating has changed significantly in the last few centuries. The 21st century has seen a rise in online daters and swiping on Tinder, Facebook Dating, and Bumble, but what does this mean for our generation? With all these options, are we destined to be alone?
Every day, I see more and more women struggling to find love. We try dating sites, speed dating events, bars... but the harder we try the less successful we seem. It's as if society is telling us that our odds of being loved are slim to none. But this doesn't have to be true! I say this with full assurance because I have found love, true love, and I know that if I have it that means you can, should, and will have it to. These are the three things I did to be found by my beloved:
The gurus were right, work on yourself first. Nothing is sexier, more appealing, and draws a great partner to you like you loving who you are, warts and all. We are told in the Good Book that we are to love our neighbors, yes, but how? As ourselves. We cannot love someone properly without first loving ourselves. Once I started to love and accept myself for who I was in the moment, everything began to change. If you need a bit of help here, my resource The Ultimate Self Love Journal might be right for you. You can access it here.
Pray and meditate that great love in. I was inspired to write a prayer & meditation, in which I called the appointed one. We are co-creators, made in the image and likeness of God. This means that we were made to function, act like, Him. He never does anything without saying it. He said, He saw, He felt. As I continued to say it daily, I then began to see how I would like to be treated, remembering how my parents, after over 40 years, still act like love struck teenagers. I would imagine a love like that. Over time, I began to feel it. It was about a season, 90 days, before we met. This video can be found on the Free Resources page at my site. No email exchange or sign up required. You can access it here.
Try something you might not be comfortable with. No, not that cochina! What is your gut leading you to do, leading you to go, leading you to try? For four days I got the impression Bumble. I kept shewing it away like it was a pesky fly. The name kept flittering up from inside me, like a voice growing stronger and stronger. I just really didn't want to do another dating app. On the fourth day, because I'm not always the fastest or sharpest, I finally just gave in. Within a day or so, my beloved swiped. Now on his profile, he didn't really have any information and I normally didn't engage with those that didn't. However, there was a kindness in his eyes I couldn't ignore and he had this mischievous grin that was appealing, so I did what I normally wouldn't. It's two of the best decisions I have ever made in my life.
These are simple things you can start doing today to draw in that great love of a lifetime. If it happened for me, I know it will happen for you to.
xoxo
Jupiter
here is me and my beloved chatting about this on our Tik Tok channel here