Have you ever sat at a table and everyone is talking about a certain event where they’re so excited to attend and you have absolutely no idea what they are speaking about? Hands up and nod for me if you have experienced that.
I certainly have…too many times to count…and sadly, it’s always with people who I should know what they are speaking about. This hurts immensely to your core if you let it. But it doesn’t have to and you can actually extend forgiveness to them.
First, it’s not your fault and everything they speak of, even if you were supposed to know, doesn’t have to hurt you. The clear message here is that your absence doesn’t bother them so don’t let their actions make you feel low. Release the emotion that you need to feel angry and remind yourself that you are loved by many others who value your presence.
Second, the option here is to take this moment as a lesson that you can easily love them from a distance to keep your heart safe. The fact that you weren’t asked to be present says a lot about how they feel about you. So extend the option of forgiveness to them so you can find happy where they can’t ruin it for you.
If someone truly values you, truly wants you present, the effort to make sure you know is what they would do. But if your absence is not bothersome, this draws the line of how you should not let them control your emotions. Be kind to yourself and your healing. Look to where you are needed and loved.