I was told once was obvious that I needed to love my self more. That sounded silly. Of course, I loved my self. It’s me. Why wouldn’t I love myself?
But trapped in Grandiose Ego and Self-Love aren’t the same thing.
Love is an active word. It’s just not a label of an emotion. It’s requires both effort and awareness.
Self Love Journey is another way of looking at the Healing Journey. Through Love we Heal. Through awareness of your Divinity, the act of loving your Self becomes easier. You deserve to feel Love.
When I began my Journey I was full of Self Loathing and hatred, but I thought I was perfect and superior to others.
This isn’t something we are taught. In fact, we are taught and conditioned to be someone other than who we are. We are rewarded for it. It’s difficult to love our self, when we don’t know our true self.
Through Shadow Work and the Healing process, unhealed parts of our selves are revealed. We recall something we loved as a child, but we then programmed to grow out of. The joy it brought is recalled, and this can be the reconnection to celebrate.
It is part of you and celebrated. Nothing is wrong with you. It doesn’t matter what lies you’ve been told by others. You are worthy of Joy and Love.
I find arts are a big one for some. Some spend hours drawing by pencil as a child - just creating. It’s therapeutic and fun, but at a certain age time spent in creativity is considered wasted time and more practical things are encouraged and rewarded.
Just the act of picking up a pencil and creating an image can take people back to a part of themselves that they once pushed away. They can then love this aspect of self through showing their art or giving it away. This is just an example.
Being proud of your Self is an act of self love.
As a side note, the creativity is often shunned in us because people say “Good luck making money with that” or condemning the amount of time spent and labelling it as wasted.
As you discover the Self, you love that Self. You honour who you are, not who who were taught to become. Your self is unique, but if you pay attention most people are almost the same.
Healing is the path to know your self, and this is needed to love your self.
Acceptance is a big part. We live in a society where you are often punished for being different and not following the crowd. We require our own acceptance, our own Love, not anything external to us.
This can be an odd sensation because we often seek Love, like it’s some sort of approval. The truth is, if everyone in the world loved us and adored us, we would still feel empty if we didn’t love our own self.
Forgiveness of past mistakes is necessary for our consistent state of Self-Love. We will punish ourselves and hang on to guilt over harm we did to others, that they have long since either forgotten or forgiven.
Knowing you deserve to feel Love is imperative to receiving it.
A single person often attributes the lack of love in their life due to the absence of a romantic partner. But then as time goes on, after that initial spark of passion, then emptiness resurfaces and blame is placed on the new partner. “They aren’t the one.”
Then the cycle perpetuates, often until someone gives up looking for the One, with the illusion that true love was never meant for them. Guess what are the One you have been seeking. We need to find Love within first.
When true Love comes from within, ALWAYS, and without a state of self Love an energetic match will never surface. Wounded people attract wounded people into their lives. Balanced people attract balanced people.
If you love your own self, you would rather be alone than with someone who doesn’t love themselves. It’s a clear and obvious state when you get that point of Consciousness.
You can’t fake being balanced for very long. Emotional wounds are impossible to hide, once you exist from a Self-Loving perspective.
If you don’t love your own self, and happen to meet someone who does, chances are it won’t last. Along with self love comes confidence, and those with Self-respect won’t tolerate an energetic leech, trying to steal your love for themselves.
Loving your self is the first step to joy. Nothing else is required. Life may seem exciting with a partner, but many would rather be alone and in love with themselves, than be with an emotionally needy partner.
At our core we are Love, you need to be aware of this. The world we live in seems to be consciously hiding this Truth from us. We become more comfortable with a fear based existence as aopposed to love.
As you heal into the Love focussed mindset, it will feel odd and uncomfortable, but so familiar at the same time.